My Boyfriend of 2 Years Didn’t Want to Get Married Until He Learned I Was Inheriting a Three-Bedroom Apartment — So I Played Along
It’s funny how life can throw curveballs when you least expect them. I had been with my boyfriend, Jason, for two years, and though our relationship was strong, there was always one topic that seemed to be a point of contention between us: marriage. I’d always been the kind of person who dreamed of getting married, having a family, and settling into a life with someone I loved. But Jason? He wasn’t so sure.
From the beginning, Jason made it clear that he didn’t believe in the rush to settle down. “Why fix something that isn’t broken?” he’d say. I respected his viewpoint, but as the months went by, I began to feel a little uneasy. We were in a committed relationship, but he seemed hesitant when it came to the idea of marriage. He would joke that he wasn’t ready to tie the knot, and each time I brought it up seriously, the conversation would end in a quiet “not now.”
At first, I thought maybe he was just unsure, or perhaps he was focused on other things, like his career. But the longer we were together, the more I began to wonder if this was simply his way of avoiding commitment altogether. I’d even joked to my friends that I’d never get a pr
oposal from him unless a miracle happened—maybe something like a huge windfall.
Then, one day, the miracle came, though it wasn’t quite what I expected. I received a call from a lawyer I had never heard of. It turned out that my late aunt, who I had always been close to, had left me her three-bedroom apartment in the city. The apartment was worth a substantial amount of money, and not only would it provide me with a comfortable living space, but it could also serve as a valuable asset. It was an unexpected blessing, and though I was grieving my aunt’s passing, I couldn’t help but feel a sense of awe at the gift she had left me.
When I told Jason about the inheritance, his reaction was completely different from anything I could have imagined. His eyes lit up, and he immediately started asking questions about the apartment. How big was it? What was its value? Was it in a good location? I noticed a shift in his attitude, one that I hadn’t seen before. Suddenly, he was interested in the future. Suddenly, he was talking about us.
“Maybe we should move in together,” he suggested casually. “Maybe we should start planning for the future after all.”
It was as if a switch had flipped. For the first time in our relationship, Jason was making long-term plans. He wasn’t just talking about living together; he was talking about the possibility of marriage—something he had always been so resistant to before.
At first, I was taken aback by his sudden enthusiasm. Was this really about me, or was it about the apartment and the potential financial stability it represented? I couldn’t ignore the nagging feeling that Jason’s newfound interest in our future might have been motivated by the inheritance, not just by his love for me.
So, I decided to play along. I didn’t give him the satisfaction of immediately agreeing to anything. I played it cool, just like he had been doing all along. I didn’t rush into discussions about marriage or moving in together. I wanted to see if his newfound commitment would last or if it was just a reaction to the apartment.
As the weeks passed, Jason continued to be more attentive and interested in my life, but I could tell that something had changed. He wasn’t just talking about the future; he was genuinely asking about my dreams and goals. And while I appreciated the attention, I couldn’t help but wonder: Was he truly in love with me, or was he just seeing the potential of a three-bedroom apartment as a ticket to a more comfortable life?
Eventually, I decided to have an honest conversation with him. I told him that while I appreciated his excitement, I didn’t want to feel like my inheritance was the only thing making him serious about us. I wanted him to be with me for me, not because of the apartment. And surprisingly, Jason opened up in a way he never had before. He admitted that the idea of settling down had always scared him, but the thought of building a life together, with a solid foundation (both emotionally and financially), made him feel more secure.
In the end, we both realized that the apartment wasn’t the only thing that mattered. We were ready to move forward, but it wasn’t about the inheritance—it was about us and what we wanted for our future. I didn’t have to play the game anymore. Jason had learned that love and commitment were about more than just material things, and that was the real victory.
So, while the inheritance did play a role in our decision, it was the strength of our relationship that made the difference. And that’s a gift no apartment could ever replace.
